How to make out with a girl in 40 seconds or less – for real

If you've ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn't know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it's magical or out of reach - a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.

But it's not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. In this article, I'm going to break down those steps.


The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone who's really good with women and someone who's not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who's ready to make out.

I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it's true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down. 

You must know how to spot that woman who's already in this "make-out ready" state, so you can walk up and be "that guy."

Don't buy into the myth that women don't want this to happen. 

Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this "turbo" make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn't happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. staying being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one's approaching them.

By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see the women who you're able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place.

There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session. 

What To Look For

The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions. 

Let me explain... When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called "Eye Accessing Cues." When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she's accessing her emotional brain. 

If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she's saying: "I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I'm looking down." And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn't just use her eyes to look down), she's physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission. 

This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.

Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn't look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, she's meeting you head on, and not showing immediate submission. 

Women who you're going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That's one quality which shows you'll be able to quickly make out with her. 

Another quality is that she's actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she's not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in 40 seconds or less. It's going to take much longer. 

Again, you're going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You can't just walk up and make out with her.

So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she's constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and that's a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with. 

Other traits are revealed in the way they're moving and how they're dressed. Let's say she's standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It's less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That's because she's standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she'll probably be a lot more resistant.

Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit. 

Another thing is the way she's dressed. If she's dressed in a way that's super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn't the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.

This kind of women is looking for attention - not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who's in between "I don't care" and "Stare at my tits, bitch!" Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who's in between those two extremes.

A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don't want to over dress or under dress, and don't know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. They'll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).

That's what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed. 

If not, I'd actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.

Next, right after you get that done and you've seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you're going to walk up and start the scary part.


What To Do


This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It's very, very important that you understand how to control someone else's frame if you want to come across like you're a pro at this. 

By "frame," I basically mean their "reality." You're controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately. 

I'm going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I'll explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it... 

Here's what I would say, word-for-word... Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, "Shhh…" 

Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, "Wait just one moment." 

You can also say, "Stop for one minute." I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears "stop," "wait," or "don't," they immediately register whatever comes after that.

So if I say, "Don't think of a black cat," what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head. 

So if I said, "Don't try to make out with me," or "Don't make out with me right now," girls are going to be consciously hearing, "Don't make out with me," but their subconscious minds will be hearing, "Make out with me right now!"

You're attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making-out with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, "I should make out with this guy."

Now, during frame control you'll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible.Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this. 

Don't try to seduce women who don't want to be seduced. Again, that's one of the reasons why it's important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.

So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to "Shhh" for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with "don't" or "wait" or "stop." 

My typical is "Don't worry... right now." That's all I say. And I slow that speech down – "Don't…worry…....... right now."

Then I go right into the next statement, which is, "You and I are going to have a secret. We're going to secretly kiss and no one will know."

And as I'm saying this, I'm leaning in... and you'll be doing the same when you do it. You're leaning in ever... so... slowly. At the same time, you're looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again. 

This is called "Triangulating." Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two... etc. Do that about three or four times as you're talking.

This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldn't expect you're going to get it perfect the first time.

So again, you say, "We're going to have a secret. We're going to kiss and no one is going to know." From here on out, you're really just filling up space with words as you're leaning in so you're still controlling the interaction.

So you're going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand – whichever one is more accessible – and reach around her back. You won't pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.


Signs That It's Working


Is she looking at your lips? If she's looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she's looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.

This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It's a strange loop-hole in psychology.

For some reason, that's how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if you're getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.

If she's looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You'll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.


!Important!


In a loud environment like a bar, you'll want to speak louder, but don't raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.

Then you're going to keep talking... What I usually say is, "No one is going to see this. It's just going to be our little secret. I promise I won't tell anybody only if you promise that you won't tell anybody either."

As I'm saying this into her ear, I make sure that she's feeling my breath on her neck. So I'm sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I'm speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.

This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this. 

As you're speaking really close to her ear, you'll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you're talking. Then you'll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then... you'll start kissing her.

And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck... then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds - I've done it in less time, and I've seen other guys do it, too.

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7 Deadly Texting Mistakes (part 2)

Yesterday we discussed four mistkaes men make when texting women that totally scare off or repel a girl who was previosly interested..

Let’s face it… texting women can be downright confusing…

(What to write, what did her last text mean, how long should I wait to text her again, Is she ignoring my texts?)

The worst part is when the girl stops responding or just seems to dissapear.. you never quite know why…

Chances are it can be rooted down to one of these mistakes…

Even though all of these mistakes are subtle… they have a powerful ability to kill attraction quickly.

So let’s get into it.

Mistake #5: Going for the Meetup without Sparking Emotion

Here is another hard, cold fact. If you ask a woman to hang out, without first sparking and emotion.. she will almost always turn you down.

Why?

Because all of the positive emotions she felt when she was with you has dwindled.

And the thought of getting dressed up, and going to meet a guy she barely knows (and the potential you’ll turn out to be a creep or just akward) is not worth the effort.

Logically she can easily talk herself out of it.

Which is why you MUST engage her on an emotional level first.

It is MUCH easier to get a “yes” out of a woman once you’ve sparked a positive emotion.

The two best ways to do this are with flirting or humor.

Here’s an important concept: She is NOT going to remember all your good qualities. So it’s your JOB to remind her.

Mistake #6: Becoming too “Predictable”

Lets say that you’ve now succeeded in getting up a date with a girl. You may think you’re home free when it comes to texting, but there’s still some things you need to keep in mind to ensure you CONTINUE to see your girls.

First, you never want to fall into predictable patterns. Lots of guys use the same jokes, same questions, and same  texts over and over. While it may be easier to fall into “complacency” with a woman you’re dating, don’t do it!

Instead, break things up with some spicy ever once in a while. Tell her you have a “surprise” to show her later.  Tell her something reminded you of her, but don’t tell her what it is right away. Ask her to send you a funny picture of something (or send her a funny picture of something).

Keep her guessing what your text will be and you’ll keep her interested in you. Moreover, keeping the “spark” of a  relationship alive is very important when it comes to creating a great sex life.

As long as you don’t become ultra predictable, you should have your girl texting YOU asking YOU when you’re available to hang out.

Mistake #7: Thinking She’s Different

I have stressed over and over again “Never tell a girl how you feel about her over text”…

Yet, day after day I get emails from students telling me a story about how they confessed their feelings to a girl over text…

And every time- they scare the girl away.

In your mind, you’re going to try to convince yourself that “She is different.”

Or that “It won’t work on her”

But the minute you tell yourself ‘she’s different’ you are on the road to losing her…

Guys continually do things like:

- Texting her too much

- Paying her gushing compliments over text

- Not asking her to hang out because you’re scared…

And time and time again they’ll face the same consequences as all the other guys have…

She’s not different. And if anytime you start thinkingshe is pull out this email and re-read it.

Ok…

So now that you know the big mistakes you need to avoid its time formulate a solid game plan.

In this video you’re going to learn how to turn your phone into a magnet… by using a specific sequence of texts called: The Key Lock Sequence.

Watch the video now:  http://www.magneticmessaging.com/go.php?pid=1&offer=matlee1980&tid=matlee1980

Some of the things you’ll learn:

- How to captilize on attraction before it fades

- The single biggest ingredient for capturing her attention

- 3 specific types of texts you need to send (in order) to turn her on and get her anxious to meet up.

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7 Deadly “Texting” Mistakes (and how to avoid them) Part 1

One of the most frustrating things is when you get a woman’s number (and she seems to be totally into you)

… But then after a few texts she seems to list interest, fizzle out, or go cold.

The natural reaction is to blame the woman. “She’s a flake…”

But if you do that, you could missing a giant crink in YOUR GAME that is easier to fix than you think.

In fact, if you’re like most guys than you’re probably just making one (or a few) of these common ‘texting’ mistakes that will kill your chances with a girl.

==> New video: 3 Texts To Turn Her On and Get Her Out

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The 7 Deadly Texting Mistakes

Mistake #1: Confusing Responses for Attraction

Before you’ve had your first date with a girl, she won’t  feel much of a connection to you. As unfortunate as it may be, you’re probably not the only guy texting her.

See, a common mistake most guys make when they’re texting a girl is that they mistake responses for attraction. Often when a guy is getting a response from a girl, he believes that he’s getting closer to getting her on a date or to seducing her.

The exact opposite is true!

The more texts you send before meeting up with girl means the less of a chance you have of actually meeting up with her! That’s right: even if a girl is RESPONDING to your texts, you’re not getting yourself ANY closer to actually getting her out on a date.

Instead, say more with less. Whenever you’re considering what to text a girl, see if you say it simpler, with less text. Most guys send pointless texts to women like, “How’s your day?” or “Enjoying the warm weather?” These texts DO NOT bring you ANY closer to a woman! They just beg for a response (which doesn’t mean anything).

To make sure you NEVER again waste texts on pointless chatter, ask yourself this golden question:

How is this text bringing this girl and I closer to a date?

If your answer is simply “to get her to know her better,” erase the text. It’s not going to help you.

==> New video: 3 Texts To Turn Her On and Get Her Out

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Mistake #2: Not Conveying “Fun”

Here is the simple truth. When a woman gives you her number she is NOT signing a social contract to go out with you…

And until it seems FUN for her… she’s probably not going to bother meeting up with you.

So when you send boring texts that don’t display any personality or don’t elicit any emotions in her… in her mind you’re not worth the trouble of meeting up with.

Here are some signs you’re NOT being fun.

- Am I being stiff and formal “Hi. It was nice meeting you friday”…. (too stiff. too formal)

- Am I putting pressure on her to keep the convo going?

- Am I badering her with question?

Remember, every text you send should make you seem likethe FUN OPTION. The escape from her boring day.

Mistake #3: Not Having a Texting Style

If you’re texting an attractive woman chances are you are NOT the only guy she is getting a text from today.

Hate to break it to you.

But between other guys pursuing her, ex boyfriends,  co-workers, classmates, and so on… she’s got a lot of guys vying for her attention.

So if you want to stand out- your texts need to display your unique style and personality.

She should be able to know its a text from you just by reading it (even if the name was blocked)

What words, phrases, punctuation, or emoticons are uniquely yours?

Mistake #4 Having Long Text Conversations

Text conversations are NOT the same as actual conversations.

Texting should be the “Super cool” cliff notes of a normal conversations. Meaning leave out the formalities.

The longer the conversation the more chances to mess things up or run into akward confusion.

Everytime you pick up the phone… jump right into the good stuff. Start with anectdote. Start with a teasing nickname. Find a way to quickly spark an emotion and get her paying full attention to you.

In this new video just released I explain how you can (and should) accomplish everything you need to accomplish with just three simple texts.

==>watch the video

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Tomorrow I’ll be back with three more of the common texting mistakes men make.

In the meantime, check out the video and learn how you can turn a woman on, and get her out on a date with a simple sequence of texts called: The Key Lock Sequence.

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Being Awesomely Attractive To Women

To a lot of men, they think that being the guy who gets a ton of dates is a great big mystery they can’t hope to crack.

Well, the truth is that there’s nothing mysterious about getting women to like you. To reach the ideal state where being attractive is effortless, you need to put in amount of effort over a period of time.

However, this doesn’t mean it’s hard. Once you know which areas to focus on, it’s just a matter of consistently cultivating habits based on the following:

#1: Be An Awesome Friend

What does this have to do with dating women? It’s actually an important part of being attractive because the way you treat other people – especially your buddies – is a good indication of who you are as a person.

If you’re the kind of guy who doesn’t respect his friends or suddenly blows them off for a hot date, then you need to change this habit before you create a bad impression.

Women are actually more comfortable with guys who don’t make them the center of their universe and become dead to everyone else when they start dating. They’d rather go out with someone that has solid network of friends that he speaks highly of – this is positive sign that he has a healthy social life going on.

#2: Be A Geek
I’m not asking you to dress like one of the guys from the TV show “Big Bang Theory”, but rather emulate the qualities that make them attractive.

Geeks are essentially people who have an impressive body of knowledge on a given subject, and this makes them interesting to women.

Here’s a basic truth: when you always have something interesting to say, that in turn makes YOU interesting as well.

And it’s easy – just figure out what you’re ALREADY into and learn more about it. The internet is your friend, so find every available resource out there to help enrich your knowledge on the stuff you’re into.

Trust me – being a sort of “authority” on obscure topics is attractive, provided you’re genuinely into them. It could by anything from brewing your own beer (and knowing the difference between the different types) to the implied social themes in your favorite graphic novels, or being able to tell if someone’s lying.

The magic of this is that knowing these things comes natural to you, so you’re not “putting on a personality” just to impress women. And the side effect of this is that you’ll naturally attract like-minded women who share the same interests as you.

#3: Don’t Be A Zombie

You know what’s a drag? It’s when you’re having fun and have this crazy amount of energy going around when someone comes up to you and brings you down with their bad vibe.

Don’t be a buzzkill around women – you need to demonstrate a high amount of enthusiasm because a positive attitude is contagious. When you give off a certain vibe, other people will tend to mirror that.

So get off your butt and get out there. Take vitamin supplements, do cardio a few times a week and don’t embrace a sedentary lifestyle.

It’s not about being one of those overzealous fitness nuts or acting like you’re on a caffeine rush all the time. You just have to get into the habit of being out there and staying active.
It not only makes you more attractive to women, but a more likeable, well-balanced guy who gets along with a wide range of folks.

#4: Be Masculine In Small Doses

What does being masculine mean anyway? Is it working out and bulking up to Schwarzenegger-like proportions?

Is it acting like your favorite action heroes like John McClane from Die Hard or Tony Stark from Iron Man? Is it about crushing beer cans on your forehead and pounding your chest for all to see?
Being all these might seem cool on the surface, but what lies at the core of masculinity are qualities like leadership, a solid sense of direction and decisiveness.

The good news is that you don’t have to be in the military or a politician to demonstrate these qualities. You can give her subtle hints of your alpha male personality in your own way in everyday situations, such as taking the initiative to make plans and having a definite agenda when going out.

When you’re having a difference of opinion with your girl, you don’t just sheepishly agree in order to appease her. Rather, you stand by your beliefs and reconsider your views only if your truly believe that she makes a valid point. Otherwise, you have the spine to agree to disagree because that’s the kind of attitude that earns her respect.

Above all, you should be the guy who looks after her well-being by taking the lead when needed. Women love the feeling that their guy is protecting them from the big, bad world – even if they’re perfectly capable to taking care of themselves.

In the end, being attractive doesn’t involve transforming yourself into some other person just to impress women. All you’re doing is building on what’s already inside you to begin with – it doesn’t get any simpler that that.

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